![]() If you have to write something, just write a sentence. ![]() Ask a friend to hold you accountable - another restraint that often helps. Forbid yourself from going to any other websites or checking anything on your phone or doing anything else that you like to do for distraction, until you do those 10 minutes. Simplify by putting restraints on yourself: do only one task at a time. We tend to rebel against restraints: “I don’t want to do this! I want freedom!” Well, unfortunately, having unlimited freedom means unlimited choices, unlimited distractions, and nothing gets done. So smile, embrace the suck, and get moving. Embrace all of life, thorns and pits and all. It sucks sometimes, and that’s perfectly fine. So what? Hard things suck, but life isn’t always peaches with roses on top (and a sprinkle of cinnamon). It’s not easy, and often you’re confused about how to do it because you haven’t done it much before. Focus on this, not what bad things might or might not happen. That intention is true no matter what the result is. For now, focus on your intention: why are you doing it? If it’s to make the life of a loved one better, then that’s your intention. So forget about the result - you can’t know what it will be anyway. You are caught up with the results of the task - what will happen if you do it, what failure might result. And just embrace reality: this task before you, nothing else. So let go of the fantasy, the ideal, the expectation. That’s not reality, just fantasy, and it’s getting in your way by causing fear. So what is causing the fear? Some ideal you have, some fantasy about life being free of discomfort, confusion, embarrassment, imperfection. If this fear were gone, you could just do the task easily. Accept it as part of you, instead of running from it. So take a moment to look inward and see this fear. You fear failure or looking bad, you fear the discomfort or confusion of the task. The thing that’s stopping you from doing the task, or wanting to do it, is fear. ![]() If you’re a dishwasher, you might not think getting dirty dishes clean matters, but those dishes are required to serve food, and the food nourishes people and it can make them happy and then they can go out and do something good in the world with a smile on their face. But why? What will this task help accomplish? Who is it helping? Dig deeper and find the good that you’re creating in the world. Or you’re getting paid for it, or someone’s got to do it. Why do you need to do this task you don’t want to do? Sure, because it’s on your todo list, or because someone else wants you to do it. Instead of giving in to distraction, sit there for a minute. That usually works, until it causes problems. So what should we do if we’re facing a task we don’t want to do? Well, we can run, and find distraction. All the achievements of humankind would be imagined, not realized. Unfortunately, the laundry, taxes and difficult conversations would never get done. Life would be grand if we only did what our fleeting hearts wanted to do, each moment of the day.
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